swing·er
n.
- A person who actively seeks excitement and moves with the latest trends.
- A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.
- A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners.
etiquette
n.
- rules governing socially acceptable behavior
Swinging is a terrific experience for all involved and it is at its best when the attitude and atmosphere is open, honest, trusting and light-hearted. Briefly, here are a few of the main guidelines (from my own experiences), to help those who may be new to the scene, a little unsure, or just a little left footed.
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with your partner before you even leave the house about expectations, limits, jealousies, fantasies, needs and concerns for BOTH partners. Pillow Talk is a good time to do this if you are having trouble at other times of the day. If you both know where the other is headed and can trust each other then go for it.
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ladies, under your street clothes ie, suspenders, lacy bra, teddy, corset etc. etc. Most clubs provide a towel to wrap around yourself if you don't have anything to wear but they aren't all that sexy looking.
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if you are unsure about anything. You should be told or shown where these are when you go to a club for swingers. Change rooms, toilets, showers, bedrooms, condoms, towels, drinks and nibbles. Some clubs now have buttons to press if you are having any trouble--use them if you need to without any hesitation, otherwise, there is always someone in charge near the bar and entrance.
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to loosen the nerves at the beginning - it does help you to remember you are there for a party and, lets not forget sex.
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when approaching or being approached by another couple or single - it takes guts to take that first step.
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Everyone has the right to decline sex with anyone or all present and no pressure should be placed on a girl or guy in this position. This is a vitally important point in the smoothness of each and every meeting/party.
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to the body you are fucking - groping is nice for for some, but not all, all of the time, unless you are specifically requested to do so - especially the breasts.
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shower before you leave for the meeting/party and when involved in hot and heavy sex, change towels and even take a break to shower if you get too sticky.
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to a person you may recognise. Handle this situation with tact as they may be as embarrassed as you are. Don't forget that you are both there for the same reason - great sex! A brief exchange of greetings is fine, but no shop talk, gossip or whatever. If they choose to ignore you, it may be best to do the same.
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Lying on your back with legs in the air can be a tiring experience for the lady - so don't be afraid to offer (male or female) to aid her comfort by supporting her legs. Sexual activity can be a sweaty business and a towelling down at the appropriate time is usually appreciated, too.
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This is a big turn off for lots of people and you will probably be asked to leave.
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Swear words can be great when it's hot, hard and horny, but can be a real downer when your sentences are smeared with them.
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heavily if you are around a lot of non-smokers. Be sensitive to those around you.
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before you have finished. Safe sex is very important and this must be adhered to. Please dispose of used condoms in the rubbish bin and don't leave them lying around.
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for sex. Swinging is about sharing and having fun.
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The secret of good swinging is based on openness and light-headedness - don't ruin everyones time by being selfish or childish.
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For sexually adventurous couples, solo ladies, 
